You can visit her website for more insights, mantras, and techniques for becoming an empowered empath. I've included my favorites below, but there are many more!
I highly recommend reiki treatments (which can be done distantly) or even reiki level 1 certification (just make sure you find a reputable lineage/teacher).
Eden energy healing is also great.
Beyond energy healing arts, there are several other things I use to ground/deflect & release energies I’ve picked up from the world:
- Dress in light colors, especially white. Black is a super-absorber, and not just for light/heat. It makes you more likely to pick up other unwanted energies. White will help deflect them. If you have to wear black, make sure you wear all white underneath it to protect yourself.
- Use the mantra "What's mine is mine, what's theirs is theirs" any time end up in contact with someone with a lot of negative emotions, someone who complains a lot, even someone who's just having a tough time. If you're getting upset by the news or social media, take a break from it of course, but also remind yourself "What's mine is mine, what's theirs is theirs" and take a deep breath. This mantra from my mentor has also been helpful to me when I feel overwhelmed by my *own* feelings: "I allow myself to have feelings! If it's disappointment or anger then I allow myself to feel it! Then I will reach out to friends who will let me feel sorry for what has been done, but then empowers me so that I could steer back to what is best for me."
- If you feel yourself getting overwhelmed by negative energies, a shower or bath is a great option. It's especially helpful at night before bed so you can cleanse yourself from the energies you pick up during the day. Visualize the water (as bright light) taking all those energies and washing them back out through your feet to the people they came from (it's ok if you don't know who they are - the energies know). The people you got them from need those emotions/energies to heal, so if you keep them, they get stuck. If you take a bath, add a handful of Himalayan pink salt to the water - it also helps to cleanse those energies. Avoid Epsom salts - they make you retain energies & sometimes even make you more susceptible to picking up other negative energies.
- Literally ground - go outside in your bare feet & feel the earth under your feet. Imagine growing roots from the bottoms of your feet down into the earth. If you don't have accessible earth, concrete/cement/brick also works as long as it's not painted/sealed, as does ceramic tile. Asphalt is *not* good for grounding, so you'll want to avoid that, as well as vinyl, rubber, wood, plastic and tar.
- Himalayan salt lamps are helpful to cleanse your home of unwanted energies. Set one up in each of the four corners of your house (doesn't matter what floor if you have multiple levels), or even put one in every room.
- Make your alone time sacred - it's actually an essential element of caring for your empath body, like eating & sleeping. Make sure you get time to spend away from others in silence for at least a small part of your day. Even 10 minutes can be helpful to allow you to reset and clear yourself to re-engage in the world. Likewise, protect your night time sleep - it's so important for an empath to recover!
- Remember that sexual experiences are ungrounding, especially for women. It doesn't make them bad, just that if you're experiencing a particularly difficult time with your empathic energies, sexual encounters are *not* going to help. I tend to think of them as very spiritual experiences, especially as a soul connection with a healthy partner. They send you up, and when you need grounding, that's the opposite direction you're aiming for!
- Slow walking meditation is great - be conscious of every tiny movement your feet, legs, arms & core have to make to move you forward. Slowly put one foot down, rolling carefully from heel to toe. Once that foot is firmly planted, slowly lift the other foot, and put it down in front of the first, again rolling carefully from heel to toe. Try to glide rather than bobbing up & down. Notice your breath and each muscle as you move. Each step should take at least 7-10 seconds. This is especially helpful if done outdoors in a quiet natural setting, but will work anywhere, as long as you can focus on your body as you move.
- Eat grounding foods according to your personal food tolerances and dietary restrictions. These include meats, eggs, basmati rice, whole grains (not wheat/spelt), cooked root vegetables, dark chocolate (75% cacao or higher), coffee (unless the caffeine makes you agitated), mushrooms, cooked beans, blue corn chips, and all other cooked vegetables. Replacing table salt with Himalayan pink salt in your cooking is also helpful. Foods that contribute to ungrounding include sugars, fruits/juices, wheat/spelt, and spicy foods. Again, not that those foods are generally bad, they're just not what will help ground you when you're feeling overwhelmed by emotions.
- Qi gong movement - Gathering the Earth: stand with your feet hip width apart or wider - whatever is comfortable for the exercise. Take a deep breath as you slowly bend your knees & spread your arms wide out to your sides like you're holding a large basket against your stomach. Move your arms down and back in toward you, moving back up to your chest, like you're picking up a pile of leaves from the ground in front of you as you return to standing. Exhale and turn your palms down, pushing your arms down straight in front of you to your waist/hips. Repeat 3, 6, 9, 12, 15 times - any multiple of 3. Try to maintain a calm flow to your movements, similar to Tai Chi.
- Use an energy clearing meditation. This one comes from my mentor: You can do this standing, sitting or lying down, but I find it most effective when standing outside, barefoot if possible, especially near a tree. Place your feet firmly on the ground if you are standing or sitting. If you're lying down, lie on your back with your legs uncrossed & stretched out in front of you, arms at your sides. Close your eyes and imagine you are growing roots out of the bottom of your feet down into the earth (it's ok if you can't actually feel the earth because you're lying down - it will still work). They're growing down & down, stronger & stronger, deep into the earth, until you reach the cool, clean water running beneath the earth's surface. Feel your roots reaching down into that cool water, and imagine that clean water traveling up the roots in your right foot only, washing up your right leg, across your abdomen (where your solar plexus is), swirling around that yellow solar plexus space in your abdomen and washing all of the negative energies from that power center. Allow it to continue to travel up your left arm and across your chest, swirling for a moment in your heart space and washing anything you don't need away and replacing it with clean, white light. Allow it to continue traveling across your chest and out through your right arm, back down toward your solar plexus again. Imagine it filling that space with clean, bright, yellow light, light filling a small circular glass bowl with a brilliant, clean, yellow liquid. Say to yourself, "I stand in my own power! I release that which no longer serves me." Imagine that water washing away all that negative energy and anything else you no longer need as it travels from your solar plexus to your left leg, down through your left leg, and back out into the earth through the roots on your left foot. Take a moment to be grateful to the earth for receiving what you have returned to it, and open your eyes. If you are outside, it may be helpful to imagine that when you move from where you are standing that you break off your roots and leave them behind in that safe space.* You can then return to that place in your mind when you need to ground yourself later, even if you cannot physically be in that space at the time, knowing that your roots are preserved safely there.*
- Create a grounding essential oil blend to diffuse or use topically. You can rub a drop into your palms, carefully cover your nose & mouth & inhale, being careful not to touch your eyes, or you can rub it on the bottoms of your feet before you put on shoes in the morning or before you go to bed at night. I sometimes even dab a drop on my chest so I can smell it while I'm at work or other places with a lot of people. My mentor's recipe: 80 drops white fir, 60 drops black spruce, 25 drops ylang ylang, 25 drops pine, 20 drops cedarwood, 10 drops angelica, 5 drops juniper. Make sure you have a reputable source of pure, therapeutic grade essential oils.
- I haven't personally used it, but infrared sauna is also very grounding, if you have the opportunity to use one.
*Credit to @medicalmedium for this concept that I have added onto my mentor's meditation.
Wishing you all the best as you begin your healing journey toward becoming a skilled empath!